Looking In The Mirror
After my daughter was born I stopped looking at myself in the mirror.
I don’t think it was something I did consciously, it just kind of happened. This was so unlike me. I spent my teens and twenties obsessed about how I looked, constantly looking in the mirror, checking to make sure my hair, makeup, and outfit looked great.
I wish I could say that this change came about because I now had a beautiful daughter and I didn’t care what anyone else thought anymore. It was quite the opposite. I didn’t like what I saw in the mirror anymore.
The exhausted mom who barely had a chance to shower, let alone put on makeup.
The new mom who didn’t immediately drop all the baby weight and was living in sweatpants and her husband’s oversized t-shirts.
This new version of me was so far from the glamorous, put together mom I envisioned I would be, so I avoided looking at her. I wish I could say weeks later I woke up, the weight was gone, my baby slept through the night, and I lived happily every after.
My daughter did learn to sleep through the night and so did her sister who came along twenty three months later. In fact, now that they are teenagers they sleep like champs!
Through those early years I struggled trying to find the work, life, mom, wife balance. And I eventually found, not an equal balance, but I found what worked for me. A big part of finding that balance was feeling good about myself, finding my confidence. And for me that started on the outside.
I noticed that when I put on an outfit that made me look good, I felt more confident. I walked a little taller, smiled a lot more, and didn’t avoid the mirror. I felt more like that stylish, put-together mom I always dreamed I would be.
I had to ditch the oversized t-shirts, sweatpants, and ill fitting clothing and replace them with the colors and styles that worked best for my body and my lifestyle. It took a lot of trial and error, reading books, blogs, and scouring Pinterest for inspiration.
Luckily I’ve always had a love for fashion and shopping, so finding those pieces that made me feel confident wasn’t a chore, it was an exciting challenge. And I found that I wasn’t only good at styling myself, I have an eye for knowing what looks good on others too. While shopping with friends, I am able to help them find what works best on their body and for their lifestyle.
As my girls grew older and more self sufficient I started working as an assistant to my Cabi stylist and was having so much fun helping other women find the pieces that made them feel beautiful and confident that I decided to become a stylist myself.
As a Cabi stylist I realized that I wanted to help my clients/friends with more than just an amazing collection of clothes. I wanted to show them how to put together outfits from what they already owned, find what colors and styles worked best for them and their lifestyle, and show them how confident and put together they could look on the outside.
I want getting dressed to be easy and fun and I want you to look in the mirror, feel confident and smile!